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October 16 2016

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ftmmagazine:

Hats Off to Jeremiah!

October 09 2016

I’m a galaxy

My biggest secret used to be not telling anyone I’m not a man. My biggest secret now is, not telling anyone I’m not a woman either. In fact I do realized I’m a galaxy.

Keeping that secret is easy. You can easily fool people into thinking you’re one of their beloved genders or the other. Best trick so far is having the wrong body. Second best is trying to fit into society. Everyone will be fooled by the binary and sticks you into one of those imaginary boxes labeled man or woman. You don’t have to do anything special. Society at large did the trick over the last centuries or so. They blacked out everything besides the masculine and feminine side. They made everyone believe gender is not even one-dimensional, that it’s a boolean decision. Hiding the truth about its true nature.

If you discover that truth you most likely walk along a path similar to this one. Most of the time you will start slowly. First you connect the binary and think of it as one-dimensional. That you can be anywhere between masculine and feminine. Later you will recognize that not everything is or has to be masculine or feminine, it can be neutral or agender. Call it a second dimension. But many that came that far still believe to see gender as a single dot on that surface or a line on the path, maybe a connected area within. But instead you and your gender is made out of many, many single dots. You’re a cloud, or better: you’re a galaxy made of many sparkling stars on your gender dimensions.

Each time you make a decision on any topic in any way related to gender, you put a dot somewhere. Maybe your taste for clothes, maybe it’s about colors, maybe about how you speak to some. How you act around others. A dot for your presentation to your friends, to strangers, a dot for your presentation to yourself, a dot for everything that makes you, you.

And then in the last step you start to realized something else. All those dots, they’re not fixed. They move over time. They can float all over the place. You’re nice two-dimensional galaxy just found it’s third dimension: time.

You’re a fucking gender galaxy floating through time and space. Trying to fit that into a binary decision of being female or male, is therefor a not so straight forward quest. But who wants to be straight anyways? 

So if you don’t have the time to fight them, to fight the binary. Well then you might just play with it and fool them to think something they can comprehend. Get a pause from the fight, regain your energy. In the end you always know that behind that binary mask, you’re a sparkling galaxy!

ps: naturally everyone’s path is, of course, different ;) and some may have found other dimension to map their decision to. But they most likely still end up being a galaxy of sorts, too.

September 02 2016

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x-cetra:

vaspider:

wetwareproblem:

vergess:

wetwareproblem:

barbidreamdumpster:

bifoxstiles:

adayinthelesbianlife:

The first Pride was a riot.

Wall sticker in Marlborough lesbian pub, Brighton.

i’m actually realizing this now

but the original poster said “queer power” and someone erased that and replaced it with “gay power”

real classy

#is this real

Well. I’m not exactly an expert at image analysis, but the bottom text in the first one looks much cleaner than the top text while the second one matches better. Also, the creases in the second one on the Q and U seem like the sort of detail that wouldn’t be faked. Finally, this actually matches up significantly better to “queer” politics than “gay” politics; it was always queers who advocated and took the front lines in direct action.

If you put the image in an editor or just view the full size of the first image, it becomes very obvious that the text on the bottom was added later: all of the vertical lines in every letter are pixel perfect straight lines. That is basically impossible with a photo of a poster that is both visibly at an angle, and has paper weathering and other distortion. Look at the verticals of the white text to compare. The only distortion of the text is the jpg artifacts we would expect in that level of contrast. There is no lighting on the pink text either, another highly suspicious trait.

Additionally, if you crop out the pink text in op and run an image search you get the second photo, as well as four or five other photos of the poster, all reading “queer power.”

With the pink text left in, however, the only version of the poster is this exact image, sourcing to op.

I want every single person who ever argued with me on That Queer Post to take a long, hard look at this. I have been told at least dozens of times that “nobody is saying you can’t identify as queer,” that I’m “ignoring history,” that they’re not trying to shift back to gay, etc.

Now, here’s this post, in which queer people are having their art defaced in order to rewrite their identity. Where they’re being forcibly rewritten as gay. Where history is being literally goddamn erased. It’s got three times the notes of That Queer Post, and as far as I can tell, @bifoxstiles is the first one to challenge this narrative. And I’m not gonna hold my breath on y'all to call out OP.

They’re literally stealing our history, rewriting it into a new version that excludes more than half of the community. And nobody’s challenging this. You’re too busy trying to shut down inclusive, egalitarian language.

Shame on every last one of you.

Uhhhh. That’s like a really famous poster, at least if you are over a certain age. I recognized it immediately. 

Yeah. It… it never said ‘Gay Power’ originally. It said ‘Queer Power.’

What the actual fuck.

OKAY KIDS. HISTORY LESSON TIME.

Ironically, just before this crossed my dash, Oxford University Press shared a link to a new archive of queer oral history. If not for Tumblr’s recent push to wipe “queer” from our collective memory, I wouldn’t have thought twice about OUP using the term. After all, it was chanted in pride and defiance when over a million of us participated in the 1993 March on Washington to demand an end to discrimination…

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Video clip from that day: “We’ve come to Washington to show everyone that we’re here, we’re queer, and we’re not going anywhere!”

Queer theory, queer studiesnew queer cinemaqueer liberation: it was and remains the umbrella term in academia, since “gay” leaves out the bulk of people discriminated against for their gender and/or sexuality.

In the past year, I’ve seen some Tumblr members trying to suppress the word “queer,” just as people back then tried to suppress us. The excuse is that it’s sometimes used as a slur. But so is “gay.” In my 45 years, I have heard/seen “gay” used as an slur far more often.

At first, I tried to respect the fact that “queer” bothered some Tumblr users, even though it was painful for me to see queer-positive posts tagged “q slur.” But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that caving in to those asking us to drop the term “queer” would permit homophobic and/or transphobic sensibilities to define our identities. Do we have to drop “gay” now as well, or tag it “g slur”? Since when did we stop reclaiming these words as a matter of pride? 

Isn’t this just the latest ploy of internalized homophobia/transphobia sneaking up on us? 

Unfortunately, erasing “queer” from our vocabulary has hurtful real-world consequences.

Silencing “queer” silences many of those who fought, marched, rioted and died for your rights. It erases those of us who are queer but not gay: trans, intersex, nonbinary, lesbian, bisexual, aromantic, asexual people, and more (see why the term is so necessary?) Erasure/minimization of queer people is how we end up with disrespectful historical revisionism like that Stonewall movie. Or the Photoshopped poster above, rewriting our history with a lie. 

And that’s the real kicker.

Erase “queer” from our vocabulary, and we erase future generations’ ability to learn about their past. How will they be able to find LBGTA+ history, if you teach them not to use one of the main keywords they need to search for to find it? 

How much of our past and present community will be rendered invisible and their needs ignored (this article is really, REALLY worth a read), if those now lobbying against the term “queer” are successful?

Decades ago, when being out was taking a huge risk, we chanted, “We’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!” It would be a bitter irony if, even as mainstream society becomes “used to it,” as demonstrated from the Supreme Court to the bridge of the U.S.S. Enterprise, our own community becomes less “used to it.”

Think about the forces of prejudice who were trying to silence us when that “queer power” sign was made. Please don’t let them win.

My wife surprised her coworkers when she came out as trans. Then they surprised her.

faithinhumanityr:

By Amanda Jette on upworthy.com —

Society, pay attention. This is important.

My wife, Zoe, is transgender. She came out to us — the kids and me — last summer and then slowly spread her beautiful feminine wings with extended family, friends, and neighbors.

A little coming out here, a little coming out there — you know how it is.

It’s been a slow, often challenging process of telling people something so personal and scary, but pretty much everyone has been amazing.

However, she dreaded coming out at the office.

She works at a large technology company, managing a team of software developers in a predominantly male office environment. She’s known many of her co-workers and employees for 15 or so years. They have called her “he” and “him” and “Mr.” for a very long time. How would they handle the change?

While we have laws in place in Ontario, Canada, to protect the rights of transgender employees, it does not shield them from awkwardness, quiet judgment, or loss of workplace friendships. Your workplace may not become outright hostile, but it can sometimes become a difficult place to go to every day because people only tolerate you rather than fully accept you.

But this transition needed to happen, and so Zoe carefully crafted a coming out email and sent it to everyone she works with.

The support was immediately apparent; she received about 75 incredibly kind responses from coworkers, both local and international.

She then took one week off, followed by a week where she worked solely from home. It was only last Monday when she finally went back to the office.

Despite knowing how nice her colleagues are and having read so many positive responses to her email, she was understandably still nervous.

Hell, I was nervous. I made her promise to text me 80 billion times with updates and was more than prepared to go down there with my advocacy pants on if I needed to (I might be a tad overprotective).

And that’s when her office pals decided to show the rest of us how to do it right.

She got in and found that a couple of them had decorated her cubicle to surprise her:

And made sure her new name was prominently displayed in a few locations:

They got her a beautiful lily with a “Welcome, Zoe!” card:

And this tearjerker quote was waiting for her on her desk:

To top it all off, a 10 a.m. “meeting” she was scheduled to attend was actually a coming out party to welcome her back to work as her true self — complete with coffee and cupcakes and handshakes and hugs.

NO, I’M NOT CRYING. YOU’RE CRYING.

I did go to my wife’s office that day. But instead of having my advocacy pants on, I had my hugging arms ready and some mascara in my purse in case I cried it off while thanking everyone.

I wish we lived in a world where it was no big deal to come out.

Sadly, that is not the case for many LGBTQ people. We live in a world of bathroom bills and “religious freedom” laws that directly target the members of our community. We live in a world where my family gets threats for daring to speak out for trans rights. We live in a world where we can’t travel to certain locations for fear of discrimination — or worse.

So when I see good stuff happening — especially when it takes place right on our doorstep — I’m going to share it far and wide. Let’s normalize this stuff. Let’s make celebrating diversity our everyday thing rather than hating or fearing it.

Chill out, haters. Take a load off with us.

It’s a lot of energy to judge people, you know. It’s way more fun to celebrate and support them for who they are.

Besides, we have cupcakes.

July 31 2016

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3+ years of HRT in one picture..

March 27 2016

The inherent transness of ‘The Matrix’ trilogy

chrysalisamidst:

 This isn’t to say it’s an allegory for being transgender or the oppression trans people face in their daily lives. It’s more complex than that. But if one rewatches the films with the new knowledge that both of the Wachowskis have transitioned, its transgender themes are unmistakable, and have been largely overlooked by (mostly cisgender) critics. Interestingly, Lana Wachowski told her family she was trans on the set of the second and third films.

The Wachowskis’ transness is so central to the trilogy’s metaphors and its entire plot that it’s hard to believe anyone other than two trans women could have created it. It’s stacked with symbolism that means quite a lot for transgender people who watch it.

I’m not just talking about all the shapeshifting in the movie, which everyone from Agent Smith to the Oracle does. Nor am I referring to the ideas about “monsters” and “monstrous bodies” that can be found throughout the film.

But if you think about it, of course two transgender people would create a film about perceptions being false and people being controlled by programmed ideas. The Matrix itself is artificial, and humans are trapped in it without realizing it. Waking up from it and resisting its imprisonment puts one at risk of being killed due to rigorous enforcement of its rule that all human beings must now be part of it.

The gender binary is a set of ideas about what it means to be male and female that have been handed down to practically every person born on Earth for centuries. It stipulates that men and women act particular ways, wear specific things according to their assigned sex, have very specific bodies, and have hard-wired ways of acting that are basically “code.” Stepping outside these boundaries, whether it be by transitioning, loving someone perceived to be of the same gender or even by wearing the “wrong” clothes, is called “unnatural,” puts one at risk of harassment, and can still in many cases result in death. The Matrix itself also holds people’s bodies physically captive. The notion of being “trapped” and freedom from this type of “imprisonment” is central to the trans experience. I’m not referring to the tired and harmful cliche about being “trapped in the wrong body.” The Matrix itself is actually a nice rebuttal to that idea, since people’s bodies don’t change inside it.

During the first film’s revelation in which Morpheus tells Neo he’s really been living in a computer simulation, his Matrix self is referred to as his “residual self-image.” His clothes and mannerisms are revealed to be just a projection of is his programmed “self.” This all sounds very similar to how trans people feel when seeing a body other than the one that’s been told “you need to wear these clothes, have this hairstyle and act these ways.” To me, it basically sounds like the experience of gender dysphoria.

Since the gender binary has been hammered into us from an early age, many trans folks will often stare into a mirror and still see the person they were before, even if their bodies have changed. Hips that look “too feminine,” voices that are “too low,” and jawlines that are either too pronounced or too muted meet us every day. We might falter and fall back into that residual self-image, thinking we’re either “too feminine” or “too masculine,” but the thing is, there’s nothing about breasts, say, that’s inherently female. Cisgender guys with gynecomastia know that very well. There are also plenty of cisgender women who have very low voices.

The notion that “things are not always how they appear,” as rigid enforcer Agent Smith himself says in “The Matrix Revolutions,” is something trans people know very well. Pushing beyond this “residual self-image” and breaking through to who we actually are – the notion of becoming – is central to the trans experience. We are not “trapped” in our bodies. We are instead held captive by people’s preconceptions of us and by a set of “rules” that are fundamentally false about what it means to be “male” and “female.”

March 15 2016

February 09 2016

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micdotcom:

At Ashton Colby’s final beauty pageant in late 2011, where he was competing for the title of Miss Ohio 2012, he lost. As the pageant closed, he cried in his dad’s arms and lookers-on believed that he was weeping for his lost title. But Colby was weeping for a much different reason. 

Colby would begin his transition to male six months later, in early 2012. Four years later, he’s telling his story very publicly on YouTube — all to prove a point about trans people.

January 31 2016

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transstudent:

What Cis People Say To Trans People Vs. What We Hear

By Meredith Talusan and Rory Midhani

TRANSlator 3000: Amazing technology translates cissexist BS!

“Oh you’re trans but you look so good!”
“Trans people are ugly.”

“I’ve never met a trans person before.”
“I assume I can identify any trans person.”

“I would date a trans person.”
“Trans people are usually undateable so I deserve a prize.” 

“You look just like a real woman.”
“Trans women aren’t really women.”

“I’m glad you’re being honest with me about being trans.”
“Trans people who don’t tell me they’re trans are deceivers and liars.”

“I loooooove trans people!”
“I fetishize trans people.”

“It’s so hard to switch pronouns.”
“Trans people are an inconvenience to me.”

“I don’t have a problem with trans people.”
“I have a problem with trans people.” 

January 18 2016

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micdotcom:

Powerful photos expose the micro aggressions trans people face every day

Like so many other transgender individuals, Shane Henise is no stranger to microaggressions. But rather than continue to passively receive hurtful, ignorant statements daily, Henise decided to take a stand. His photos show the comments trans people hear constantly — including the all-too-familiar and invasive sex question.

December 20 2015

True Trans Force Rebel

transitiontransmission:

It is true.  It has happened.  And here it is:

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Laura Jane Grace, transgender rocker extraordinaire, was tweeting at the Official Star Wars twitter about getting one of the Star Wars voice changers.  And they replied with this.

Hashtag FOREVER: True Trans Force Rebel!

We here at Transition Transmission cannot tell you how happy this made us!  But I can assure you, we’ve never been happier to be Star Wars fans in all our lives!

May The Force Be With You!

December 16 2015

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smartassjen:

We’re happy to announce that all six episodes of Her Story will be released, for free on YouTube, on January 19th, 2016!

If you’re not already familiar, Her Story is a web series about the dating lives of trans & queer women, which stars trans & queer women, and was written and directed by trans & queer women.

Here’s the trailer:

We’re excited to finally share all of our work, which was made possible with your support, with the world soon.

Stay tuned via our website, Twitter, Instagram, and FaceBook.

December 03 2015

Reblog if you're transgender and you didn't know you were when you were little

November 27 2015

The Upcoming Film About Black Trans Activist Marsha P. Johnson Looks Absolutely Legendary

poltlfreakshow:

After protests over the erasure of trans women of color from Robert Emmerich’s Stonewall, expectations are high for the short film Happy Birthday, Marsha!, about trans activist Marsha P. Johnson. If the trailer’s any indication, this movie will slay!


Marsha features acclaimed Tangerine star Mya Taylor in the title role.

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The trailer shows off a sumptuous, hyper-real 60’s aesthetic.

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The film also features trans actresses Eve Lindley, Cherno Biko, and Rios O’Leary-Tagiuri.

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There’s even a glimpse of Marsha P. Johnson herself in the trailer!

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That’s right — it’s gonna be legendary.

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BuzzFeed News caught up with filmmakers Reina Gossett and Sasha Wortzel, who showed us some wonderful exclusive images from the making of the movie.

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Gossett told BuzzFeed News: “The pictures were all taken during the shooting of our ‘Hotel Dixie’ scene in which Marsha, Sylvia, Bambi and Andorra are hanging out in a hotel room they share.The scene is a flashback to 1965 when Sylvia is new to their scene and to sex work. Marsha is acting a as a sort of mentor to Sylvia.”

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Commenting on the rich look of the film, Gossett notes: “We wanted the movie to reflect Marsha’s beauty. She wasn’t really fancy but she was fanciful, and when we talk about aesthetics it’s about the beauty of how she relates to other people.”

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Wortzel adds: “Frequently people expect that if a film is political it’s not going to be beautiful. It was really important for us to make a film that was deeply political and personal in many ways but also gorgeous to look at.”

Happy Birthday Marsha is currently raising funds on Indiegogo, to make sure the film will be as amazing and beautiful as possible.

September 18 2015

bloodcountessabendroth:

Not every trans woman knows that they were supposed to be a girl when they were a little kid.

Not every trans woman grew up always feeling drawn to stereotypical “girl toys” or clothing.

A lot of us don’t figure it out until later in life and that’s OK.  There is a popular trans narrative that our cis oppressors like to promote because in their minds, if we come to the realization that we were supposed to be girls when we were young it’s somehow pure to them, but if we figure things out when we are older they try to paint us as sick men with a sexual fetish which is of course bullshit.

There is no one standard trans narrative! We come to discover who we really are in all sorts of ways and they are all valid.  Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

Edit - I didn’t figure it out till I was 31.  I retrospect it’s obvious now, but back then I didn’t know any better and that does not make me more or less valid a woman, same as you.

August 21 2015

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brinconvenient:

janetmock:

It’s vital that ‪#‎girlslikeus‬ become the showrunners of our narratives, hence the need for Her Story. Watch the trailer + let’s help make this happen -> http://ow.ly/QQGXH

When smartassjen‘s character starts talking about comparing herself to other women, mentally noting all the ways that her body is shaped differently enough to make her stand out, even in her own mind, I fucking lost it. 

This show is going to destroy me. In all the best ways that Transparent actually could not. …. I mean, first of all, it’s a story about trans women that’s actually about how being trans impacts these women’s lives (without focusing on their transition) and NOT about how their being trans impacts the lives of everyone else they know and love (FUCK YOU TRANSPARENT, ABOUT RAY [although it’s about a young trans man, the complaint applies], NORMAL AND JUST ABOUT ANY OTHER FUCKING “TRANS” MOVIE EVER).

I can’t fucking wait for this show. They’re still seeking funding for post-production, though, so contribute if you can. This is Very Important Media Representation, folks. All donations are tax deductible, if that’s your thing, and they have many varying levels of contributions and perks. They’re not quite half-way to their goal, so please help them out!

June 19 2015

Ein Brief an einen Freund

Ein Brief an einen Freund

Wir hatten uns lange nicht gesehen. Und es ergab sich dadurch nie die Gelegenheit über mich zu sprechen. Jetzt 5 Jahre später hatten wir uns wieder gesehen. Und ja, meine Erscheinung ist wohl doch etwas anders als damals :D Er hat etwas zu knabbern an der Sache, aber tun wir das nicht alle? […] Ich kann dich beruhigen.. die Akzeptanz, das Verständnis und die Toleranz die mir entgegnet wird ist…

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June 10 2015

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